2017 has been an incredibly fascinating time for me, comparable to back in 2012 when I first started solo backpacking in Thailand and almost as exciting as when I first started my business in 2014.
This year I really put myself first.
I decided to say yes to a dream that I’ve had for a few years, traveling to Europe, and I decided to splurge a bit on myself (maybe a bit too much), because 2015 and 2016 had been grind years for me (even though they were still exciting in their own right)
As I look back at the last 6 months, all I can say is that wow.
I’m proud of myself.
Even throughout all the mistakes and wrong turns I’ve made, each and every day I’ve decided to pursue my dreams and each and every day I’ve been able to learn new aspects of myself.
Being single for the past 6 months has also been very interesting and fun as well, I gave myself another opportunity to learn more about relationships and to improve myself into a better woman overall, and also realizing that in the real world, yes, I am incredibly weird.
So I never want to pass time in vain and I do want to share some of the 7 lessons I learned in the first half of 2017:
1. PUT YOURSELF FIRST
I had been told by a few people that I was selfish earlier this year, and instead of feeling attacked or triggered this time, I owned it.
I said yes, I am selfish.
Thanks for noticing. I realized that the self sacrificing Asian woman role was just not cutting it at all, because in the end, you should do things not because you want OTHER people to react a certain way to you, but because you wanted to do it.
By trying to force something onto someone else creates resentment in both you and yourself.
Of course, sometimes I toe the line of being rude but overall I feel much more at ease OWNING the fact that YES, I absolutely put myself first before anyone else, and so should you..your own oxygen mask needs to be put on first.
Not just in emergencies, but in life.
2. THERE IS ALWAYS AN ALTERNATE REALITY
The funny thing with Facebook timelines is that it reminds you of what you did in the past–well, I had initally been a bit upset when an older photo popped that reminded me that this time last year I went to a certain restaurant with my ex to celebrate a big sale day.
But lo and behold, that day, another date took me out to the SAME restaurant AND another one that we had been at previously, unplanned.
I knew then it was the universe letting me know that memories will stay good memories only when you are actively going out there and enjoying your life.
So whatever you are going through right now that might be upsetting you, realize that the same thing that caused you sadness might bring you complete happiness.
Same with money–if you have a bad situation with that experience, you can flip and learn from it and absolutely turn that into a great experience.
And guess what? More awesome memories will be created at ANY restaurant I choose to because that’s just the way that I believe life is possible for me.
3. YOUR HEALTH IS A DAILY RITUAL
Because of certain family situations that happened this year, I was reminded again how important it is to take care of your health, not when there’s a health scare, but EVERY SINGLE DAY.
I walk for 40 minutes and listen to mindset and mentor trainings, non negotiable, but recently I decided to join another gym because I just missed the feeling of going to classes.
I had gone to LA fitness throughout most of 2016, but 2017 got me busier again, and as I settle down more throughout the later part of this year, I decided to go for the Equinox membership where it will A. help me meet fellow human beings and B. keep me in shape.
I still cook healthy and focus on proteins and greens but there’s nothing that beats the feeling of coming back from a great class and looking and feeling great, which will in turn help you make more money.
4. TRAVELING IS NOT FOR THE RICH, IT IS FOR THE IMAGINATIVE
This was a quote from the Power of Unlimited Imagination, and I only got to see how true it was when I finally decided to go to Europe for my 27th.
I had been putting it off all the time and I had been saying, only when this condition is met blah blah blah…
which would have been true had I made it so, but the trip really re-energized me in a way that other forms of rest could not have, and I got my international travel mojo back after not traveling internationally since 2012.
Now with cheap airline tickets, just some creativity and flexibility in your schedule can make it happen.
My ticket from LAX to Arlanda in Stockholm ROUNDTRIP was only $500, and totally attainable by somebody who does do some initial planning and can be flexible with their schedule (thank god I’m a business owner)
So I want you to know that travel is absolutely possible.
5. REJUVENATION IS JUST AS IMPORTANT AS HUSTLE
This year I started a ritual of going to the Korean spa and it has absolutely changed myself and my business.
I learned to relax into the water and also become more ok with being rather than doing.
Because it’s never what you DO, it’s always who you ARE.
And when you become that next level version of yourself, everything else follows.
6. MORE MONEY SAME PROBLEMS
I used to make about $2,000 ish per month near the beginning of 2016, and I thought OH once I hit $10,000 a month, my money problems will be solved!
Actually, the same problems came up. I swing through extremes of not spending anything and then going a bit loco with it, and I realized it wasn’t the money that was an issue after a base level, it’s how I react to having more than enough and why I thought I needed to send it to other people rather than paying myself first.
This money mindset is something that I will be working on for life, getting better and better each time, and this time it really hit me how it’s really not just about the money but how you manage EVERYTHING, time, your energy, and again the way you do one thing is the way you do everything.
7. LEARNING SPANISH VIA SKYPE
This is amazing for me. After I bought Benny Lewis’ Speak in a Week program I realized that italki account I created back in 2015 to teach ESL can be used to teach myself Spanish.
Now I’ve been in contact with Spanish since I touched ground in California, I’ve learned very basic Spanish but never really TRULY put effort into it.
Now I’ve had 2 conversations over skype with native Spanish speakers and THIS IS EXACTLY LIKE COACHING!!
While I was being scared about talking to people in Spanish, I could have just done it in the comforts of my own home.
I’ve also changed my phone settings to Spanish and after a week I finally understand Google directions in it too.
So short bursts of something very intensive can work to your advantage, and I can’t believe I didn’t do it sooner.
And I know that the excitement I have for learning Spanish will also pay off in new Spanish speaking clients in the future and sine Latinos will take over the world any way I consider myself prepared beforehand.
PHEW! I really enjoyed writing this post because I seriously had a lot of fun experience in the past 6 months that I NEVER thought was possible, including flying a helicopter, doing k pop, driving a Ferrari, traveling to Europe, launching group programs, and generally having a ton more fun.
I KNOW that the next 6 months will be even better, with also me improving the financial management side of things and being more responsible in business but also having more fun with myself and my clients and more GROWTH everywhere. Also I’ve “committed to something” via Equinox’ slogan so hopefully you’ll see some killer abs and glutes from me soon! XD
PS: what is something you’ve learned in the past 6 months? Hit the reply button, would love to hear from you!